March EQ Theme: I am special!
Posted on March 1 2013 by FHPPS in EQ
This month we will be focusing on the development of self-awareness and self-esteem.
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is how someone ‘feels’ about themselves and is often a result of the experiences they have had in life. Children have different temperaments which can affect how sensitive and resilient they are but life experiences also have a huge effect on self-esteem. Some children are more naturally independent and self-sufficient whilst others need more support and nurturing. We as parents and teachers need to respond to the individual needs of the child.
Children with high self-esteem:
- Take risks with their learning and in social situations
- Are able to say what they are good at and are generally quite positive
- Treat others with kindness
- Often appear happy
- Tend to attract friends easily
Children with low self-esteem:
- Are afraid to try something because they are afraid of failure
- Often state that they ‘cannot’ do something and often appear to be quite negative
- Can be hurtful to others or they will isolate or distance themselves from their peers
- May often complain and dwell on events that have upset them
- Struggle to make good friendships, some will become loners and others will often appear to be in constant conflict with their peers
What can I do to help improve/maintain my child’s self-esteem?
- Listen to them and spend time with them
- Be calm and patient when you can see they are nervous about an activity
- Encourage them to try new things but don’t push when a child is not ready
- Physical affection is really important
- Give positive descriptive praise. It’s great to say ‘Well done!’ but try extending the praise to ‘Well done for staying in the lines. I can see you were really concentrating.’ This type of praise means more.
- Remember that self-esteem is not a ‘constant’. We all have peaks and troughs. Don’t panic when your child dips but pay close attention and respond to their needs.
- When you are really worried please come and speak to us! Our doors are always open!